Threesome

We heard it before and we will certainly hear this again today, tomorrow or even in the coming generations. It will always take two people to tango. No doubt it is politically correct.  How about threesome?

It’s not about sexual adventurism. Nor I am talking about having another romantic and sexual relationship other than your wife or girl/boyfriend. I am referring to a situation wherein you or your partner is somehow flirting with an opposite sex but not in a sexual way.

I had read an article in Inquirer.net regarding a woman who is married and is somehow rekindling the passion of her past relationship with her ex-bf, who happens to be single until now. The guy actually is working overseas and they plan to meet one of these days. The girl even admitted that she is now feeling in love again with her ex-bf.

This situation may be improper, downright immoral in the Philippine scene, but this would somehow help this woman reach a very good decision for her life in the end. I could picture out from the article that she may have some unresolved issues with her present partner, reason that she had entertained and is experiencing some love magic in her heart just by communicating with her ex. They may labeled her infidel, unfaithful, immoral, etc but the fact that she did not have any sexual relationship at the moment with this guy and the possibility of them meeting and continuing their interrupted relationship remains nil, I could not coined her as such.

I am not against of my girlfriend meeting new a guy. I am not against of the idea of her communicating or exchanging messages with a flirt guy. But she must let me know. She must inform me how she is progressing with this guy. I don’t even care if she had phone sex with this guy while I am listening. I see nothing immoral with that set-up.

What makes it unacceptable and immoral is when it comes to a time that they will actually meet. What makes it immoral is when it comes to a point that she would already kiss and sleep with this guy. What makes it unacceptable is when she already had forged a relationship with this guy and she is still with me.

This scenario will usually lead to two things. First, she would finally recognize your worth to her life. She would be able to affirm her love for you. You will live a life assured that you are truly loved by your wife or girlfriend. She will not have the “what if I …” question lingering in her mind. And she would be proud of her decision.

The second thing and probably the worst thing you don’t want to hear is she realizing that she is not really into you. She may discover that she only loves you because of the money and presents you have given her. She may find out that it wasn’t love that keep her with you but the heat of passion you shared when you are together; that it was not love but your shared or common traits and aspirations that bind you.

We all know that romantic and sexual relationship is not all about shared aspirations, interests and dreams. It is not about similarity of traits and behaviors. But it is all about complementing the flaws, imperfections, deficiencies, limitations, etc of your partner. How can you walk an extra mile if you and your partner both have leg-problems?

Sometimes we need other people to serve as our mirror. Sometimes we need a complex scenario to remind us of what we really wanted. And sometimes it takes three to make a relationship successful.

I had a share of this experience in the past.