until i breathe no more

when i love, i love… simply like that.

i will give everthing i could give and never worry what would i become from it. whether i get richer by giving all that i have - richer in love, or get indigent by surrending all the worldly possessions i have acquired. seldom you will find this type of personality in the present world. 

and maybe this manner is all wrong for i always find myself at the end all alone - i, myself and me alone pondering what has gone wrong. but the more i asked, the more i get confused. so better yet i’ll stop asking.

a sister of a friend of mine once wrote this in her blog, “all of those imperfections that you see in others are only reflections of what you fear yourself to be.”  i strongly agree with this for i was somehow a victim of this statement.

but love is totally the opposite of fear. why fear when we are capable of loving. as an indian rabbi puts it, “It is through our failings, shortcomings, and deficiencies that we come to appreciate what our partners add to our lives.” if we are really perfect then we don’t need a partner; then we don’t need a love of the opposite sex. a woman inspires a man to be better and vice-versa.

so as long as i still have the blessings to live in this world, i will continue to love no matter how many times i get fooled and how many times ladies will break my heart. 

to the moon and back

JCB, my former colleague in DTI-SDS send me this sms (which somewhat talks about stereotyping):

the dialogue between the boy and the girl before marriage:

boy: yes, at last! it was so hard to wait.

girl: do you want me to leave?

boy: no! don’t even think about it.

girl: do you love me?

boy: of course! over and over!

girl: have you ever cheated on me?

boy: no! why are you even asking?

girl: will you kiss me?

boy: every chance i get!

girl: will you hit me?

boy: are you crazy? i’m not that kind of person!

girl: can i trust you?

boy: yes.

girl: darling!

after marriage… (simply read the dialogue from bottom up) 

one gotta give

laging sinasabi na kapag ang isang tao ay galit ay ‘wag na ‘wag mong sasabayan dahil lalo lang lalala ang away o baka ay magkapatayan pa kayo. ika nga, “huwag mong buhusan ng gasolina ang apoy.” hindi po ako salungat dito.

dapat kasi daw ay antayin natin humupa ang gulo o tensyon bago tayo magbigay ng sarili nating opinyon o paliwanag. boto din ako dito. pero meron din akong nasagap na bagong pamamaraan kung papaano natin haharapin ang mga bagay-bagay na hindi natin gusto o kinasusuklaman natin sa buhay. ito po yong tinatawag nilang kabutihang naiidulot ng mataas na emotional quotient ng isang tao. ang emotional quotient o EQ yata ay parang offshoot din ito ng anger management.

isa pong napagandang prisipyo ng EQ ay “we should not control our anger but we should control how we respond to this emotion.” so it is healthy to get angry kasi di naman talaga natin maiiwasan na magalit sa isang tao dahil sa mga pangyayari na hindi natin katanggap-tanggap. ang pinakaimpotante sa lahat ay alam natin kung papaano tayo magre-react sa ating galit.

kadalasan sa atin makes decision in times we are stressed, pressured and angry. and oftentimes than not, the decisions we arrived are faulty. kung galit ka sa isang tao siguradong hindi magandang desisyon yong mabubuo mo; posible pang mapatay mo yong tao.

sabi nga ng EQ, we should learn to control our responses to our harsh or angry feelings. if we could master this, siguradong gaganda at hindi magiging stressful yong buhay natin. siguradong makikita natin, tayo ay makikinig at ating maiinditihan yong mga paliwanag ng ibang tao. sometimes kasi kailangan natin ang ibang tao na sabihin nila na mali yong  ginawa natin. hindi sa lahat ng panahon ay alam natin na mali tayo. sometimes we presume na tama tayo. it’s not all the time din na yong hinala o iniisip natin ay tama. it’s like in a classroom na akala natin tama ‘yong solution natin sa isang math problem until sasabihin ni prof na mali pala tayo.

we could not really impose on other people na tama tayo at sila ay mali especially if galit tayo sa kanila. but the answers are always available around the corner if we only have the good eyes to spot them and decipher their meanings.

have a healthy EQ!

hep.. hof gorei..!

it’s not about sexy cheer leaders shouting or chanting…

Hof Gorei is a beach resort nestled at Kaputian, Island Garden City of Samal. that is accessible by boat from Sta. Ana Port in Davao City. it is a 45 minute boat ride from the main island of davao. it’s location is closed to Pearl Farm Beach Resort.

last May 15 was my second visit to the lovely island of samal. my first was a decade ago. i was still a student then and was invited by my girl friends in college.

i opt not to talk about the resort amenities and about its staff, except on the idea that this is a new resort there in samal. actually, a group of abs-cbn staff had come to the resort the day after our visit. they were booked for an island hopping adventure.

you have to visit it to experience it first-hand.   

a week in davao

like any obedient soldier, i was in davao last week reporting to my base station. this would not be a great day for people whose work demands more of his time in the field than submitting himself to their headquarters. i would be glad if i was not there specially that i was suffering from emotional hang-up. but it was somewhat also helpful to my part since i was relieved from work and relationship stress.

i was drowning myself with beer for the straight four nights i was there. but no amount of malt liquid i poured into my system could make me forget the suffering that crawls like fire ants into my skin. so to keep my sanity, i decided to try the new tambayan in davao city. actually, it was just a walk away from my hotel and from the office.

F. Torres Avenue in Davao City is the place to be at night. a number of restaurants lined the street na dati ‘yong davao convention center lang ang locator doon. lahat ng gusto mong pagkain meron po sila. if you are watching your cholesterol level, you may try seafoods. you can try sinuglaw.

if your hilig is to sing your heart out, you can try K1, nasira nga namin ‘yong sound system nila dahil sa lakas at taas ng birit ng kasama ko. K1 has ample karaoke rooms available. mag-reserved ka ng maaga kasi baka maubusan ka ng  room. they also offer masahe. (more…)